how long must we wait for a lesbian disney princess
or what about a prince who throughout the entire movie you think he’s going to be the love interest but in the end it turns out he’s gay
or how about a lesbian princess
how about a princess whose sexuality doesn’t matter and that doesn’t focus or rely on a love interest????
or a lesbian princess
I think as an author I’ve pretty much decided to never have any straight cis white guys in my stories except as antagonists.
ethankwolfe asked: In what was is 'cis' a misogynist slur? Its meaning is the same when applied to both men and women.
That’s a seriously flawed litmus test, and completely erroneous but I’ll answer anyway.
'Cis' asserts that gender is innate, natural or something we are born with. This is absolutely false, gender is a social construct not to be conflated or confused with biological sex. Gender is not quantifiable while sex is a biological reality. Just list a few traits that you identify with gender I guarantee everything you list is deeply sexist and has has nothing to do with biological/genetic reality.
Using the term ‘cis’ equates some female privilege for being born female. Being born with a vagina never, ever garners any privilege in any culture and it it never has at any time in human history. Quite the opposite. So using this slur effectively negates global female oppression and erases the hazards that women face on a daily.
This is incorrect. Cis does not assert that gender is innate. It asserts that an individual is typical, normal, or common in relation to trans, inter, and likely at least one or two other non-cis sorts.
Biological sex is a social construct.
There is no such thing as female privilege. There is such a thing as cis privilege.
Please avoid talking about things you know nothing about in the future.
Also, as a white trans woman, it just annoys the hell out of me to see white cis women promoting primarily white, cis, abled feminism—usually radical feminism—insisting that they can’t possibly have any privilege because they’re women. It’s no wonder they deny the validity of “cis” as a category and refuse to acknowledge what the word actually means in this context. They also get to deny that they receive any benefits for race, economic class, being able-bodied, etc. because they’re women and thus have zero privilege.
Of course there’s no such thing as female privilege. But women can be cisgender, white, affluent, able-bodied, straight, etc. and all of these categories come with privilege.
Intersectionality describes how we’re not all just one label. I am not just trans, not just white, not just autistic, not just female, not just working class, not just living at the poverty level, not just queer, not just fat. I am all of these things and every one of them intersects in ways that impact me every day.
"Cisgender" is not an assertion that gender is innate or natural or something we are born with. It asserts that while some people are transgender—and thus find ways to live with being transgender, which includes transition—most people are cisgender and do not have to deal with the challenges and marginalization that being transgender brings along with it.
drziggystardust’s explanation of cisgender is not unlike cis men who deny male privilege because they were bullied in school—as if women don’t ever experience bullying too.
Guess what AVEN said to me.
I reported some people on AVEN for gaslighting sexual assault and trauma survivors via the “I’ve never seen it (so you must be crazy)” trope. This is what the admod team had to say in response to my reports:
[P]eople disagreeing [about other people’s experiences of sexual assault] can certainly be harmful, but if it doesn’t cross the lines stated in our ToS (personal insults, etc) then it’s not against the rules.
[AVEN is] supposed and expected to be safe from those things asexual[s] deal with often enough in real life, such as “you’re not asexual, you’re just looking for attention, get over yourself”, “asexuality doesn’t exist, you’re not an amoeba”, “you’re just a gay in denial”, etc.
I’m sorry if this message will be disappointing
You’re aware that every single example you gave was an example of gaslighting, right?
And if AVEN were really a safe space to discuss asexuality, it would be a safe space to discuss sexual assault, since sexual assault and harassment are a given fact of life for way too many asexuals, simply because they’re asexual. How many times have you heard someone say, “As soon as someone finds out I’m asexual, they try to get me to have sex, including forcing me against walls and groping and kissing me trying to ‘turn me on’”? And you still have the gall to say that sexual assault is not a relevant issue to the asexual community? I’m so offended by your justification here, that it’s OK to say hurtful and damaging things to sexual assault survivors on AVEN because “that doesn’t have to do with asexuality”. One: That’s a disgusting stance for any moderation team to have. Two: Sexual assault absolutely does have to do with asexuality, not only because it has to do with sexuality at all, but also because asexuals must face the additional threat of “corrective” sexual assault for not conforming to heteronormativity.
You’re right; I am incredibly disappointed in your response.
cipherpol said: yeah i’ve heard AVEN is problematic af from several sources. the aces i know just aren’t associated with them at all because of their experiences w/ them
(Obviously I’m slow replying these days.)
Yeah, I’m not associated with them either except to cause as much trouble for them as I can! XD lol
your casual jokes, your bored dismissals, your tacit approval, your incoherent defenses rob me of my basic humanity
you’re telling me to not to get so upset because it does not matter to you if i am hurt
because i am not fully human in your eyes
i am a label that interrupts your enjoyment of racist things