Anonymous asked: What do you think of the phrases "man up" and "grow a pair" (and any variations thereof)?
I think they’re bullshit. I also think they are a perfect illustration of the idea (much maligned by MRAs) that something can be both deeply misogynistic and also incredibly harmful to men.
See, these phrases are used to control men’s reactions, to enforce outmoded ideas of masculinity. These phrases (and the ideas behind them) hurt men by proscribing certain very healthy emotional responses. This not only punishes men for vulnerability, empathy and kindness, but is also a huge contributing factor to the fact that men do not or cannot report sexual assault, contact suicide help centers, or solicit psychotherapy. In short, a great many of the problems men’s rights groups claim to care about are wrapped up in the same ideas embodied by those phrases.
But it’s also true that those phrases are bold-facedly misogynistic. “Man up” and “grow a pair” both say the same thing: “Be less like a woman, because to be a woman is to be lesser.” Similarly, phrases like “don’t be a pussy” or “don’t be a little bitch” say the same thing. To be feminine, to be in any way like a woman is completely unacceptable.
To deny that this worldview is a result of patriarchy and deep-seated misogyny is remarkably disingenuous. And when things like healthy human emotions and asking for help are derogatorily associated with femininity, the harms to men and those around them are easy to contemplate. It’s just a shame that a wide swath of anti-feminists refuse to see this obvious connection and end up working against feminism, thereby working against the exact relief they claim they seek.
Still thinking, still conflicted.
But if asexual people should be considered part of the LGBT+ community, should they be allowed to sport rainbow pride gear to represent themselves? Or is that only for same-sex-attracted people?
I don’t punch nearly enough people.
[T]he binary as tool of oppression is not about legitimizing binary genders over non-binary genders, in a general sense, but about legitimizing a white notion of manhood and a white notion of womanhood. And, in turn, this is inextricably tied to who is considered ‘human’ and who isn’t. —
Real question: should asexuals be included in the LGBTQI community? I wanna hear your thoughts. Come at me, any way you please.
the stereotype that women talk more than men is infinitely amusing to me because men are literally incapable of shutting the fuck up
i hope this post gets popular enough that i hurt a man’s feelings
It’s not a stereotype it’s a proven fact you femanazi piece of shit.
lmao there it is
You wanna talk proven facts? This shit’s been done, son: researcher Dale Spender in Australia used audio and video tape to independently evaluate who talked the most in mixed-gender university classroom discussions. Regardless of the gender ratio of the students, whether the instructor was deliberately trying to encourage female participation or not, men always talked more—whether the metric was minutes of talking or number of words spoken.
Moreover, men literally have no clue how much they talk. When Spender asked students to evaluate their perception of who talked more in a given discussion, women were pretty accurate; but men perceived the discussion as being “equal” when women talked only 15% of the time, and the discussion as being dominated by women if they talked only 30% of the time.
Spender’s conclusion, if I may parahprase: you only think we talk too much because you’d rather we were silent.
Don’t fuck with me, asshole, I’m a scientist.
Edit: The original publication of this research was called Man Made Language (1980).